So how the mother is handling her environment emotionally is very, very important. Ask yourself have you ever had a negative reaction to something and yet could not understand where the negativity came from initially. Have you ever found yourself desiring something and said “my mom and I don’t like… or vise versa.When you say you desire a healthy baby you must realize that you are responsible for its first thoughts, desires and emotions. So making sure that you provide the healthiest condition for them to grow in is key here, you have to decide just a few things first:
- The baby’s cells need protein and the very best source of it.
- As the expectant family the environment must radiate beauty, love and respect.
- The expectant mom has to decide to allow herself to be a wise steward, for this dear one she’s carrying. Having made this powerful decision she will need to have abundant resources to nurture herself .
Deciding to have a baby is a powerful decision in an of itself, deciding to create the healthiest environment for your child’s growth is huge. Just knowing what you think is being coded into their brains, what you feel becomes their experience, what you react too becomes their reactions sometimes so hard wired it takes years for it to trigger but is always with them waiting to make itself known.
So when you hear your child say I am just like my Mom/Dad will it be fear base or Joy? Want to learn more on healthy parenting send for our Parenting Manuel. Info @cfhd.org
As the developing fetus your baby is affected by everything in its environment. So when you are surrounded by an environment of beauty, love and great affinity for the new one coming in the world this is what gets hard wired into their brain. This becomes their frame of reference.
In a case study done by, David, H.P., Dytrych, Z., & Schuller, V. 1988. Born unwanted: Developmental effects of
denied abortion. Avicenum, Czechoslovak Medical Press: Prague.
… there have been some research findings which are conclusive. Children ofunwanted pregnancies compared to those of wanted pregnancies: Frequently find it more difficult to cope with stress and frustration, [particularly boys]. The basic biological needs of these children were met less satisfactorily [i.e. there was less amount of breastfeeding in this group]. This lead to more vigorous behaviour to seek gratification and to assert themselves strongly. This lead to certain behavioural patterns which became ingrained over time and are/ were problematic. Unconditional acceptance of the child by the mother is seen as an important prerequisite for sound emotional development. In this group there is little evidence of direct rejection of the child by the mother.
However, the acceptance was found to be “incomplete, ineffective, and ambivalent, leading to more or less deviant interactions, less empathy of the child’s needs, less understanding of his/her behavioural signals, less warm emotional interchange of stimuli, etc.” [p. 85] This incomplete acceptance leads to a condition of ‘sub deprivation’.
How your baby will grow: Before they actually start growing, you’ll set the stage. Last week an increase in the amount of estrogen and progesterone coursing through your bloodstream prompted your uterus to form a lush, blood-rich lining of tissue to support a potential fertilized egg. At the same time, in your ovaries, eggs were ripening in fluid-filled sacs called follicles. At the beginning of this week (often around day 14 of a 28-day cycle), you ovulate: One of your eggs erupts from its follicle and is swept away from your ovary and into a Fallopian tube. During the next 12 to 24 hours that egg will be fertilized if one of the 250 million sperm (on average) your mate ejaculates manages to swim all the way from your vagina through your cervix, up into your uterus to the Fallopian tube and penetrates the egg. Only about 400 sperm will survive the arduous ten-hour journey to the egg, and only one will succeed in burrowing through its outer membrane. (It takes about 20 minutes for the lucky winner to find his way in.)
Over the next ten to 30 hours, the sperm’s nucleus will merge with the egg’s as they combine their genetic material. If the sperm carries a Y chromosome, your baby will be a boy; if it’s an X chromosome, you’ll be welcoming a girl. During the three- to four-day trip from your Fallopian tube to your uterus, the fertilized egg (now called a zygote) will divide into 16 identical cells. Once it enters the uterus, the zygote is called a morula. A day or two later, it will begin burrowing into the lush lining of your uterus, continuing its amazing growth and transformation. By this time your developing baby is just a little ball of cells that’s officially referred to by scientists as a blastocyst: It has an inner cell mass that will become the embryo itself, a fluid-filled cavity that will become the amniotic sac, and an outer cell mass that will become the placenta, the pancake-shaped organ that delivers life-sustaining oxygen and nutrients to your baby and carries away their waste products.